How Not to be a Rebound-Chick: 101

Are you a Rebound-Chick? Are you dating the same guy all the time? When will it end and you finally find the one for you? Well, the answer starts within. I'm telling you from experience and want to save you some of the heartache that I've experienced.

The saying is that Wise Women learn from others' mistakes.....well, we all know that in our own lives, we must make our own mistakes in order to learn from them. Some of us very stubborn people like to "believe" that we can change Him. Well, we CAN'T; so stop trying. When you met him, it was blissful, he spent a great deal of time with you, he courted you as if you were the last woman on earth and then......it hit you like a ton of bricks...He didn't want to be committed to you. I know the feeling. You see, I too have been the Rebound-Chick, not just once but enough times to know that was who I'd become. I was such a nurturer that the wounded hearts seemed to have found me like an injured person searched for the nearest emergency room. None of what I went through was the fault of the other person.

We must first accept responsibility for our role in the way we allow others to treat us. This comes with self-development and self-preservation. See, what I've learned about women who love men that don't love them in return, is that we want to stay to see him "change his mind". NEWSFLASH...He may never change his mind and are you willing to stay the course only to be hurt in the end? I was young, full of life and very eager to please my companions when I met the 1st of the Rebounds....

Let me tell you, he was NOTHING I IMAGINED and everything I NEEDED....how's that for a recipe for disaster. We worked together and he became my night in shining armor. I was in an abusive relationship that had reached its end and unbeknownst to me, he was ending a marriage that I wasn't even aware he was in. To make a long story short, we became a hot and heavy item and moved in together. For the next 3 years, we played house and he even proposed marriage to me but that was the beginning of the end.

After all was said and done, he was still not in a place emotionally to be committed to me. After his divorce, he never had time to heal. Women, who are nurturers, sometimes believe that out of the pain will come pleasure and the fairytale will end as we planned it.....STOP, THEN REALITY SETS IN.

So, needless to say, we broke off our relationship and he later married someone that he'd only known for 6 months. Could I have considered our relationship a WASTE OF TIME, maybe, but I'm an optimist and what I learned was how not to be treated that way again. Okay, I'll be honest, the lesson wasn't learned after the first time I'd been burned...


Lesson: Do YOUR HOMEWORK. Find out more about him than his astrological sign and if he isn't willing to let you into his life, simply return the favor and keep him out of yours.


Come back later for Rebound #2

Warmest,
Finally Love Found Me!!

P.S. Please share your thoughts and experiences. It is essential to your healing process